Also, when friends notice your discomfort, and try to dismiss it by being defensive of the person making you feel unsafe, what do you do?
i say "this person and i have a bad history. i can't help being wary."
tell them exactly what he said to me, what he said about me, that he physically assaulted and slandered my best friend.
Either get away from the situation & find new friends or take the time to consider that YOU may have actually been the issue.
I never want anyone to make someone feel bad & when it's happened I set things right and then banish bullies and enablers
tell them to stop enabling abusers imo
Reevaluate said "friendship". Friends won't dismiss your discomfort. Still, it is ultimately up to you to not give it power.
not 2 sound harsh. But ur real friends should understand the situation. Of course some people will continue 2 hang w the abuser
You stab the fuckers and then steal their mints! :D
you tell your friends that you don't want to be around this abusive person. My daughter had the same problem. Honesty worked.
but in my experience the best thing 2 do is express ur discomfort 2 people u trust. Figure out what u want from ur friends
sucks when 2 faced people are part of your group of friends. Call this person out. Don't let them make YOU uncomfortable :)
you realize those people are not your friends
High tail it out of there. Dismissing your discomfort only adds to it, as I'm sure you're aware. Have a trusted pal with you.
Let the event creator and said friends know as much as you're comfortable telling them?
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